Love Doesn't Really Win (or does it?)

On Friday, June 19, Dylann Roof, charged with nine counts of murder in the shooting deaths that occurred at Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church in Charleston, South Carolina, appeared before a bond hearing court. Family members and friends were permitted to speak to the suspect. Roof could hear them, but he couldn’t see them.

Anger was clearly expressed, but in redemptive, not destructive ways. Felicia Sanders, mother of Tywanza Sanders said,

We welcomed you Wednesday night in our Bible study with open arms. You have killed some of the most beautiful people that I know. Every fiber in my body hurts … and I’ll never be the same. Tywanza was my son … my hero … may God have mercy on you.

Bethane Middleton-Brown, representing the family of the Rev. DePayne Middleton-Doctor acknowledged her hurt and anger but then said,

We have no room for hate. We have to forgive. I pray God for your soul.

Alana Simmons, granddaughter of Daniel Simmons said,

Although my grandfather and other victims died at the hands of hate, this is proof – everyone’s plea for your soul is proof they lived in love and their legacies will live in love, so hate won’t win.

Anthony Thompson, speaking on behalf of Myra Thompson declared,

I forgive you, my family forgives you… Give your life to the one who matters the most, Christ, so he can change your ways no matter what happens to you and you’ll be okay.

The daughter of Ethel Lance said,

I forgive you. You took something really precious away from me. I will never talk to her ever again. I will never be able to hold her again. But I forgive you and have mercy on your soul.

Such powerful expressions of forgiveness and mercy are reflective of the power of love to prevail in the most horrible and evil of contexts. When progressive Christians talk about love winning, this, of course, is what we mean.

Many of us also believe, however, that love can break down the most resistant and calloused among us and move them in a trajectory of transformation.

Some of us are hopeful universalists. We believe that even the likes of Dylann Roof, a child of God who allowed hate and prejudice to blind him to his solidarity and kinship with his African-American sisters and brothers, will ultimately repent (maybe not in this lifetime, but at some point in his eternal pilgrimage) and be redeemed. So ultimately love wins.

But in another sense love doesn’t win at all, because life in God’s kin-dom is not about winning. Life in God’s world is about completely stepping out of the game where winners and losers are assigned on the basis of comparison and competition.

Jesus told his disciples, who were caught up in an argument about who would be the greatest in God’s realm, that while the powerful of the world liked to exercise authority and control over others, they were to “be servants of all” (Mark 9:33-37; 10:41-44).

The way of Jesus is not about winning and losing, it’s about serving and loving, sometimes in the midst of great hate and evil — as the family and friends of loved ones tragically killed in a hate crime in Charleston, S.C. have so amazingly and beautifully shown us. 

(A slightly different version of this blog was first published at the Unfundamentalist Christians website.)